My Body, My choice: The Life of Celibacy
No sex until you get married? Why would you want to do that? How can you go without sex? These are the many questions that people ask me when I tell them that I don’t want to have sex without commitment. In this point in my life, I think okay to do things differently than what I use to. For me to find out who I am, instead of trying to figure out what man in my life wants.
I had a boyfriend since I was sixteen and really never been single while I was in school. If I broke up with one, I was dating another immediately after. Saying this doesn’t mean I was sleeping with any of the boys I dated during the high school. I was a late bloomer and I didn’t do anything until I was in college. I dated a few frogs in college that I would be embarrassed to even acknowledge. While I was in college, I met and married a guy I met online. We were in a relationship for almost five years and have two beautiful daughters. We have since broken up. There are no big regrets and I’m happy that we have two daughters. I chalk it up to being married too young.
It sucks to not having someone to cuddle with or be with. Being alone is sometimes overwhelming, but with time it will get better. I suddenly realize that I never experience being alone and getting to know myself. I always dated someone and spent my time lifting them up. I became the relationship version of the cat lady. I dated guys to fill the void of not being alone. Not saying that I didn’t truly love the guys I loved, but I think I rushed into a lot of relationships in fear of being alone. At twenty five years old, I realized that I wanted more than just a relationship. I want to find my Prince Charming. But I also said to myself, “Why do I have to jump from bed to bed to find him?”
Our generation has quickly become the hookup generation. We don’t want to be in a relationship 90 percent of the time, but when we find someone we don’t really know how to keep them. We have been told through various tv shows and friends that we have to use our bodies to make a guy or girl fall in love with us. We don’t rely on our beautiful spirits to find people. People don’t know how to find people anymore or how to commit in a relationship. So since no one know how I will totally stay celibate until I’m in a long relationship aka married. I don’t think I want to share my body with complete strangers. I want to find a nice guy who like me for me and trying to get in my pants. I just want commitment not a booty call. Is that too much to ask for? Sex isn’t the main thing in a relationship. I just wish other people realize that.
So no sex until I get married again. It’s not a huge challenge. During this time of not having no strings attached sex, I will hopefully a guy who is willing to wait. I want to fall in love with myself instead of focusing all of my time on someone else. This will give time to get my education instead of worrying about being in a relationship.
No sex is a beautiful thing.
- it’s okay for you to like skinny girls
- it’s okay for you to like skinny girls with big boobs and a butt
- it’s okay for you to like curvy girls
- it’s okay for you to like heavier girls
- it’s totally okay to like thighs or thigh gaps and big boobs or small boobs and big butts or little butts
- what’s not okay is telling a woman that she isn’t beautiful or sexy because she doesn’t meet your personal body type preferences
Everyone needs to reblog this.